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Welcome to Friday Focus!

Welcome to Friday Focus, my weekly letter from PAX Renewal Center. I’m glad you’re here, whether you’ve been reading for years or just found your way to this little corner of your inbox.

This week’s letter is about carrying our faith out of the chapel and into ordinary life. As a Secular Franciscan, I’m beginning a year of praying through Live Like Francis, one section each week, guided by a simple line from our Rule: go “from gospel to life and life to gospel.” St. James describes the wisdom that grows when we do: peaceable, gentle, sincere, and sown in peace. And St. Francis reminds us that we never walk the road alone, because the angels walk it with us. For couples, you’ll find this month’s free conversation prompts and a reflection on the small, everyday moments that keep a marriage true. And we’ll close by looking up, where the Orionid meteors, tiny pieces of Halley’s Comet, streak across the early morning sky.

As always, I hope something here brings you a little more peace to carry into the weekend.

Dan Jurek contributed to this week’s newsletter

What I’m Reading

Live Like Francis: Reflections on Franciscan Life in the World by Jovian Weigel, OFM, and Leonard Foley, OFM

As a Secular Franciscan, through all the mountains and valleys of my spiritual life, I keep coming back to one simple calling: to put the Gospel into action. This book seems to offer exactly the tools I’ll need to live the Gospel in the days ahead and in this season of my life. I’m realizing that, first and foremost, it is a book of prayer. Since it’s divided into 52 sections, I’m going to pray through one each week. And I can already see it becoming a guided book study I’d love to offer next year.

A Free Resource for Couples

October Conversation Prompts

Mid-October is harvest season, a time for gathering in what has been quietly growing all year. Marriages have a harvest, too: shared memories, small kindnesses, and hopes you’ve been storing up together, often without even noticing. This month’s conversation prompts are a gentle way to gather some of that in. Save one for supper on the porch or a slow Saturday morning over coffee. Take turns asking and answering, and let curiosity lead. There’s nowhere you need to get to. Just enjoy being on the same side of the table.

Download your free October Conversation Prompts here.

A Passage From Sacred Scripture

“Wisdom from above is, first of all, innocent. It is also peaceable, lenient, docile, rich in sympathy and kindly deeds that are its fruits, impartial and sincere. The harvest of justice is sown in peace for those who cultivate peace.”

~ James 3:17-18

For reflection: Peace in a home rarely arrives all at once. It is sown, one small seed at a time. What is one seed of peace you could plant this week: a gentler tone, a quicker “I’m sorry,” or a moment of listening before you answer?

In This Year of St. Francis:

The Companions Who Walk With Us

“St. Francis venerated most affectionately the angels who are with us on the field of battle and who walk with us in the midst of the shadow of death. We should venerate these companions, he would say, who are with us everywhere, and we should call upon them as our guardians. He used to teach that we should not offend their presence by doing in their sight what we would not do before people.”

~ Celano, Second Life, 197

A Quote Worth Reflecting On

“Secular Franciscans should devote themselves especially to careful reading of the gospel, going from gospel to life and life to gospel.”

~ The Rule of the Secular Franciscan Order, Article 4

You don’t have to be a Franciscan to live this way. Read a few lines of the Gospel in the morning, carry them into your day, and bring your day back to the Gospel at night. Little by little, the two begin to look alike.

An Heartfelt Message For Couples

A 2-Day Marriage Intensive with Dan 

A Little at a Time

When I make arrows in my workshop, the part that takes the most patience isn’t the cutting or the fletching. It’s straightening the cedar shaft. A piece of wood is never perfectly straight to begin with. You warm it gently, ease the bend a little, then sight down its length and look again. And again. Try to force it straight all at once, and it will crack. But a little at a time, it comes true.

Marriage works the same way.

Over the past two weeks, we talked about the seasons when a marriage needs more than another promise to “try harder.” This week, I want to turn to the other end of the story: the small, ordinary moments that help keep a marriage true in the first place.

Dr. John Gottman calls them “bids.” A bid is any small reach for connection. “Come look at this sunset.” “You won’t believe what happened at work today.” A hand on the shoulder. A sigh from across the room. Each time, we can turn toward our spouse, turn away, or turn against. In Gottman’s research with newlyweds, the couples who were still married six years later had turned toward each other’s bids 86 percent of the time. The couples who divorced had done so only 33 percent of the time.

Most marriages aren’t made or broken in the big moments. They are shaped, a little at a time, in the small ones.

That’s what living the Gospel looks like at the kitchen table. It is rarely dramatic. It’s setting the phone down when your spouse starts to talk. It’s saying “tell me more” instead of “I already know.” It’s choosing, again and again, to lean in.

One Step for This Week: For the next seven days, watch for your spouse’s bids, the little reaches you may have been missing. When you notice one, turn toward it, even in a small way: look up, answer, smile, ask a question. At the end of the week, share with each other one moment when you felt truly noticed. Where focus goes, energy flows.

A Final Thought: If turning toward each other feels almost impossible right now, please hear this: it doesn’t mean your marriage has failed. It may simply mean the bend has been there a long time and needs more warmth and patience than one person can give alone.

With care, time, and the right help, a bent shaft can come true again. So can a marriage. A little at a time.

You Don’t Have to Walk This Path Alone

Some seasons of marriage ask for more than good intentions and a weekly appointment. They ask for time set apart. The Covenant Repair Intensive™ offers you and your spouse two focused, unhurried days to slow down, see the pattern that keeps pulling you apart, and begin walking a new path together, with a guide beside you every step of the way. If something in you whispered “that’s us” as you read today, let’s talk. Schedule your free 20-minute consultation with Dan. No pressure. Just a first step.

Schedule your free 20-minute consultation

And as always, you can email me at dan@paxrenewalcenter.com. I read every message.

Brother Sun, Sister Moon

Night sky for October 16-22, 2026:

Sister Moon is growing this week, from a thick crescent on Friday to a bright half-moon by Sunday, so our evenings will be a little brighter. The real treasures come early in the morning. Before dawn, Mars and Jupiter keep drawing closer together, and the week ends with the Orionid meteor shower: tiny bits of dust left behind by Halley’s Comet, still lighting up our sky long after the comet itself has gone. It’s a lovely reminder that what we leave behind can keep shining long after we’ve passed by.

Key Highlights (Central Daylight Time)

Friday, October 16 (evening): As soon as it’s fully dark, look low in the southwest for a thick crescent moon tucked inside the Teapot of Sagittarius. The Teapot’s spout sits just below the moon, and its handle is to the upper left.

Friday and Saturday, October 16 and 17 (before dawn): Reddish Mars, brilliant Jupiter, and Regulus, the heart of Leo the Lion, continue to gather high in the east-southeast. Head out about an hour and a half before sunrise for the darkest view. Mars and Jupiter will finally pass each other in mid-November, so it’s fun to check on them each week.

Saturday, October 17 (evening): The moon has moved just above and to the right of the Teapot’s handle.

Sunday, October 18: First Quarter Moon (11:13 a.m.). After sunset, the half-lit moon shines in the south-southwest. Look about three fists at arm’s length to its upper right for bright Altair, and about the same distance to its left for Fomalhaut.

All week (evening): Saturn, just past its brightest of the year, is the first point of light to appear low in the east as twilight fades. It climbs higher all evening and sits highest in the south around midnight. Its steady golden glow sets it apart from twinkly Fomalhaut, low in the southeast.

Wednesday night into Thursday morning, October 21 to 22: The Orionid meteor shower peaks. These swift, often bright meteors are dust from Halley’s Comet. A bright waxing moon will wash out some of the fainter ones early in the night, so the best viewing comes in the last dark hours before dawn, after the moon has set. Find a dark spot, give your eyes 20 minutes to adjust, and look toward the east and south. Under good skies, you might see 10 to 20 an hour.

Looking ahead: On the evening of Saturday, October 24, the nearly full moon sits right beside Saturn. The Full Hunter’s Moon follows on Sunday, October 25.

“Glance at the sun. See the moon and the stars. Gaze at the beauty of Earth’s greenings. Now, think. What delight God gives to humankind with all these things. All nature is at the disposal of humankind. We are to work with it. For without we cannot survive.”

~ Hildegard of Bingen

Clinician Spotlight

Dan Jurek

For more than four decades, Dan Jurek has walked beside couples and individuals through some of life’s darkest valleys, often at the very moment they could no longer see a way through. As a Secular Franciscan, he tries each day to carry the Gospel off the page and into ordinary life, and the counseling room is one of the places where it happens most. He has learned that peace is something we cultivate together, patiently and faithfully, rather than something we simply wait for. And he has seen again and again that no one walks the valley alone. Grace goes with us, and so do the companions God sends along the way.

“We have been called to heal wounds, to unite what has fallen apart, and to bring home any who have lost their way.” ~ St. Francis of Assisi

These words are more than inspiration. They are the mission that shapes everything Dan does. Rooted in Catholic faith and grounded in decades of clinical practice, he brings warmth, wisdom, and professional depth to every encounter, meeting each person exactly where they are.

Daniel Jurek, M.Min., M.A., LPC-S, LMFT, AAMFT Clinical Fellow, and Certified Spiritual Director through the Archdiocese of New Orleans Spirituality Center, is trained in the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Imago Relationship Therapy, and Attachment Theory. He serves couples, individuals, and fellow therapists through marriage intensives, retreats, clinical supervision, and continuing education.

Contact us today to make an appointment with Dan! 

Blessings,

Dan and the Clinical Team at PAX Renewal Center