When Resolutions Are Not Enough
By: Daniel Jurek, M.Min., M.A.
“The plans of the diligent lead to profit” (Proverbs 21:5)
If you are like most of who make resolutions on January 1, they’re usually long forgotten by the middle of the month. When you really want to change something in your life; when you really need to change something in your life, you need to make a plan.
Happy, vibrant, successful people think and behave in certain ways. So do miserable and unfilled people. In other words, there are patterns of success and patterns of failure. The good news is, success leaves clues! We can look at why people don’t change and come up with the antidote to make successful change.
Repetition is the mother of skill. The first reason resolutions fail and we don’t make change is that we’re out of practice. The antidote is to turn your “shoulds” into “musts” – when something is a must, you follow through. We also need to get unreasonable – unreasonable people (Like Mother Teresa, Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King) do things others believe are impossible.
Resolution failure also results when we rationalize; tell ourselves stories why we can’t change. The antidote is to develop self-honesty. We need to drop the story and tell ourselves the truth. General Schwarzkopf teaches that nothing gets better until you admit something is wrong. We also need to understand the power of now. Doing something now creates momentum to do the next thing.
Finally, resolution failure is a product of an ineffective strategy. We won’t create a healthy body unless we produce a plan that will help us achieve our goal. The saying is tried and true: plan your work and then work your plan. We need to also surround ourselves with a few people who are seeking the change we desire.
Plan you life for success and celebrate this new year!