Feel that your marriage is in a rut? It is only normal that couples fight, but if you suspect that something more is causing you problems, then it is time to consider marriage counseling. Working with a licensed therapist will bring you and your partner closer together, helping you remember what brought you two together in the first place.
There are many red flags that should lead you to consider couples counseling. Do you both bicker over the smallest things that cause a screaming match? Did you husband forget to pick up milk on his way home from work and you went to bed not speaking to each other? Or is it a major issue such as family problems, monetary spending, children, disagreeing over a sex life, or an affair? The main purpose of marriage counseling is to bring you and your partner together on neutral ground, to make sense of what is going on and to encourage you to dig deeper into yourself to find the root of the problem.
Perhaps you or your partner suffer from a mental illness that is not diagnosed. Over half of Americans with major depression do not seek treatment for their mental illness, and this can undoubtedly cause your relationship to grow stale. An experienced therapist will notice the signs of depression that could be hidden and can provide a treatment plan to follow to help open communication between you both. Focusing on individual counseling can also be a recipe for success because if you do not understand yourself, how can your partner?
The success rate for marriage counseling is exceptional. After working with a marriage or family therapist, 93% of patients reported that they now had more effective tools for dealing with their problems, including improved physical health and the ability to function better at work after attending therapy.
According to the Chicago Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy, over half of couples who participated in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy recovered at the end of therapy, with 70% recovering within the next three months.
Additionally, research done by the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists demonstrated that over 98% of surveyed couples who underwent couple’s therapy noted they received good or excellent help, and over 97% of those surveyed said they got the help they needed. If you turn to a marriage therapist for help, you can also expect to spend 20-40% less than if you had chosen to work with a psychologist or psychiatrist.
Overall, marriage counseling will save you money, fix your marriage, and gain your partner back. The first step is always the hardest; call now.