One of my favorite all time movie clips comes from the animated movie, A Bug’s Life. A scene opens in the movie as night descends on an SUV parked next to a lone camper. The night sky is beautiful, the air is calm, the stars are bright, the bugs are buzzing, and the crickets are chirping under a gorgeous night sky.
The focus immediately shifts to a bug light hanging from the front porch of the camper. Two small bugs are flying together. As they pass the bug light, you see one of the bugs veer off from its partner toward the light. The other bug screams at the top of its voice, “No Harry no, don’t look at the light”. Continuing to fly straight toward the light, we hear Harry, in a hypnotic like, trance induced voice, “I can’t help it, it’s so beautiful”. In that instant, the bug light flashes and you hear the dreaded, yet inevitable electrical surge. Harry screams and falls to his apparent death. The temptation allured Harry the bug by its beauty and warmth, but ended up killing him.
Whenever I hear a client, or a friend, or a member at church say to me, “Dan, I don’t know what to do. I love my wife/my husband, I’m just not in love any more”. When I hear those words, I am absolutely convinced someone else other than their spouse has become the focus of their attention; luring them, distracting them, causing them to lose focus. Yet, like Harry the bug, they still want to say, “I can’t help it, it’s so beautiful”. The temptation almost always turns out to be more lethal that beautiful. Usually, people around these folks tempted “by the light” are saying, “don’t go toward the light, look away, look away.” They can see the danger, the inevitable disaster ahead. Yet again, the light is seemingly too beautiful, too perfect, too alluring to turn away.” Love at first sight is easy to understand; it’s when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle” (Anonymous).
There are many distractions out there. Spousal Love is a decision. It’s a choice everyday to honor the covenant relationship of marriage. More about ‘love is a decision’ another time.
“I give you a new commandment: Love one another; you must love one another just as I have loved you.” (John 13:34)
Here is a short clip of the movie I described above – enjoy!
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